The Civil War was horrible for my family.  Philadelphia. Boston, and New York were the homes we built our power bases from.  But we lived in Montgomery, Richmond, and Charleston too.  We were respected leaders of the community on both sides of the war, and our children volunteered to fight.  It truly became a war of brother against brother, and we lost so many members of the family.  That is why we stopped volunteering to serve.  The cost was too high.