I’ve seen a great many movies Rob Reiner had a hand in. I have almost always liked them. He was a gifted creator and I’m sorry to find out he is dead. Killed. Murdered. By a member of his own family if the early reports are right. His own son.
The reports of his son’s various instabilities have gone back for years, to the point that many people said his name the moment they heard Rob and his wife were murdered. Drugs. Physiological disorders. They had all the money in the world. They could send him to rehab multiple times a year. They could do everything for their son except fix him. The reasons for that are many. Sometimes the sick person doesn’t want to be helped. Sometimes they want help but the help doesn’t stick. Some people are simply incapable of functioning in society. It would appear that their son may be one of them, and there is every chance he will now spend the rest of his life in prison because of it. Or he may be found not guilty due to insanity and be released into society again.
And both of those options are the greatest cruelty we can inflict on someone. We must find another way to care for the mentally ill amongst us. Something between abandoning them to homelessness or the long term prison sentence they get when they do something crazy horrible and kill someone. We need some form of long term care facility for those people who simply cannot function in a civil society. I don’t know where the line is. I don’t know how exactly we should do it. I don’t have the answers. And I definitely don’t want to see people having their freedom taken away because someone simply doesn’t like what they do, say, think, or believe.
But there are a great many mothers and fathers who have a child that they have tried to help again and again and again. For years, and nothing works. They’re still unstable and dangerous, and the parents know this. People who see a picture of their son having just murdered someone and know in their hearts that it is true. Not even being surprised about it. There must be something we can offer parents in a position like that. A place they can send the child they cannot fix, in hopes that someone else can. Or if not, at least keep them stable enough that they are not a danger to society.
The cruelest thing we can do to both the parents and the children caught in this cycle is to abandon them. It results in dead parents and dead children, and often dead people who have nothing to do with any of them, far too many times. We must find a way to help them. But I do not know what exact way it is.
For now, for today, we mourn the death of Rob Reiner and his wife. Reportedly killed by the child they could not fix with all the wealth in the world. This is a tragedy in every sense of the word, and I mourn for everyone hurt by it today.