Forgiveness is hard.  It is real hard.  It is one of the hardest things we can do.  The death of a family member is one of the hardest things we can recover from.  It is the hardest thing to forgive.  But those who refuse to forgive will in the end do a far greater wound to themselves than the wound inflicted on them.  In the end, if we want to live, truly live, we have to forgive those who have trespassed against us.